A year later, the day after

A year ago, I wrote about how I felt the day after Vote Day. A year later, we as a LGBT community have much to celebrate, and much to still be raising our fists, shaking wildly, for.

I woke up and checked the Maine race first. Heartbreak before even rolling out of bed—a practice I most certainly do not recommend. News trickled in here and there, Washington, then a wonderful piece of news from my friends in Kalamazoo, MI—with a very cool ad to go along with it. And as the day rolled on, so did the comments, the rhetoric, the ups and downs. I engaged in some conversation, and should have damn well stayed out of others. I should know better—too close to the heart, to my LIFE, to my love–to be impartial or kind perhaps.

Friends I ask you: why are we putting civil rights, human rights, to a vote? Why can’t the state issue civil licenses for domestic partnerships, and churches bless unions—call them marriages or whatever you will—for whomever they choose? This is not about morality. This is about basic rights of people—all people. My relationship, my love, will not adversely affect your tax life, your sex life, your family.

There was much to capture out on the interwebs today–much posted over on facebook, but I wanted to capture some of it here. So here are some noteable quotes:

From my beautiful friend Naomi:

“Can you imagine where we would be if we had let people vote on civil rights and women’s rights? These are human rights, right, Right?”

A new friend Susanne, as an idea on how to move forward:

In order to achieve equality, some clergy refuse to act as agents of the state – something I am definitely in favor of – keeping the legal agreement at the courthouse where it belongs and the blessing in the church….where it belongs.

My friend Rex offers this while considering Maine, homophobia, and misogony.

“If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.” Archbishop Desmond Tutu

The very wise and always gracious Wendy says:

Take heart from Dante, “the hottest places in hell are reserved for those who in times of great moral crisis maintain their neutrality”

The amazing poet and friend, Mark Fleury reminds me of some beautiful words:

As John Lennon said: “The world is just a little town. Everybody’s trying to put us down.”

And just a quick and very special thank you to Makeesha and Chris for engaging the conversation and being so damn smart.


“These are not issues, these are our LIVES we’re fighting for.” Harvey Milk

and From @jaybakker

“In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

And from Makeesha’s blog: timely thought from Wendell Berry via David Hayward

it is unfortunate for gays and the rest of us that the government has been invited to make a judgment on people’s private sexual behavior. It isn’t the government’s business, so long as the behavior is not abusive to others. The government should support “domestic partnerships” which gives the same legal protections to bachelor brothers or widowed sisters or friends or partners living together as if married. Justice for all is the government’s business (Berry, The Way of Ignorance, p. 145)

Adrinkingfountainnd perhaps a wee harsh but what else can I expect from my dear friend MJT? I dig it.

What about you–what did you hear today that gave you hope, rocked your world, needs preserving for posterity sake?


One thought on “A year later, the day after

  1. My mother hates the comparison between civil rights for Black people and the 60s to marriage equality. I’m not sure if it’s because she’s a black woman who experienced that era or if she is so accepting of all peoples that she is disconnected from the civil rights fight at hand. One thing I know for sure, I wish others had the burning question marks on their foreheads like she does. She simply does not get why people care about who gets married and who doesn’t. This is a woman who until 2 years ago thought she had 3 heterosexual children, attends non-denominational churches, and is a child of the 50s. I look to my mother as the voice of reason when attempting to understand compassionately why people are determined to pre-empt a couple’s decision to marry. My mother simply reminds me that we are not yet equal with respect to race–yet, we’re making our strides day after day. We even have a Black president, which no one ever believed (and yes, I mean “ever”) would happen. So, yes, there is much to celebrate–2 major denominations of the Christian church have opened arms, hearts, minds, and ministry opportunities. Thanks be to God.

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